Friday, January 12, 2018

I dont hate my mother

I did. I used to hate her so much. Now I just hurt for her. Especially as she's aged. I feel bad for her. I cant imagine feeling
Throughout my life, my emotions for her always went up and down. As a child she was the most important person to me. I admired her. I remember when I was a little girl she had long straight dark hair. She looked a lot like the other women in my family, her mother, her younger sister. The genes in my mothers family are so strong, that when I was younger, I would tell people that my younger cousin was my twin. I don't remember the details. But I think back ...Why doesn't anyone confront us on obvious lies when we were teens? haha  So yes...She was everything I wanted to be. I had the same affection, any young child has for their mother.

My mother became a mother under unusual circumstances. Only 21 years old. Dating my father, who was already married. She claims she didn't know he was married till she was already pregnant.  My older brother suffered a traumatic childhood due to the fallout of that situation. I'll get back to my older brother in the near future.
When my mother was in labor, my grandmother called my brothers "mother" and said things like "just divorce him, my daughter is in labor".  A phone call no wife would have ever expected to receive.  It completely broke her. She ended up being hospitalized due to the stress. During that time, my brother would stay with us, when our father was at work.   ......After his mother was released from the hospital, she took my older brother and  left.  They ended up leaving the state. A trip that would cause confusion for most of my brothers life. His version is actually very sad and heartbreaking. .  He was just in elementary school. He knew that I was his sister, he knew he had to leave his Father. I cant even imagine.  
So, Yes. I imagine the situation was quite hard and impossible for her.  At the age of 22 she found love and lost everything. Faced a lot of adversity, due to a dishonest lover.  She suffered a lot for her choices. Now there was a child involved.


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