I'm sharing a bunch of really personal stuff about my life....but if you've stumbled here. You probably are curious who I am, outside of being a survivor.
It took a long time for me to get where I am today. I'm still healing. I think I may always be healing. I've embraced my PTSD and my past. I'm currently channeling all the bad feelings, to change the laws surrounding pedophilia.
Today I owe who I am, to my husband and son. Without them...I'd be in a very dark place.
I'm a mother and a wife before everything else.
I work full time and volunteer full time. I'm a locksmith. My husband and I run a locksmith shop together. However this year has been harder than most. My husband developed heart issues (side effects of cancer treatment).
Our 22 year old son is returning home with his wife and 1st child, after a 5 year contract in the Marines. He's going to help us remain healthy, and in turn, we'll make sure , he never needs to leave our grandchildren with a babysitter.
Volunteering is my 2nd full time job. It does sometimes drive my husband crazy, that I'm spending hours doing random things for others, and not getting paid for my time. But this is where I thrive. Over time he's learned that it's vital for my healing. He was a volunteer in his youth, so it re sparked something in him as well. He doesnt have the health to volunteer, but being a locksmith gives him the ability to help those of his choice. We have a few elderly community members on fixed incomes. It always makes him good to help them out. When an old person is so happy with him, that's where he thrives. He had an amazing relationship with his grandfather, and lived with him growing up. This definitely is the reason. It breaks his heart how many old people have no one. Some never got married, or had children. When they get old, they dont know who to call on. Their siblings and friends pass on. Family is truly everything. So were both givers at heart. Everyone has their passions. All of my volunteer work has a goal. The goal is to introduce me to others...and have people one day show up for me. Because I'm always showing up for others. That's how it works right? I sure am hoping so.
I have 3 main interests when it comes to volunteering.
First is the RJP. Restorative Justice Partners. I'm a volunteer mediator for juvenile cases. The Monterey county juvenile probation department, passes us cases of first time offenders. My job , is to help them make things right with their victim and community at large. Those who go through our program age going to move forward in their life and do great! The best thing for me about working with the RJP. I get the Marina cases. I make it my personal business to look out for Marina youth. They know that if they can call on me for anything. Many people will criticize me for working with the RJP but then calling for capital punishment of pedophiles. But people should be interested in why. Pedophiles are hiding in every corner of society. There is no cure against sexual preference. Adults who want to have sex with children...shouldn't be awarded human rights. The dangers of keeping this person alive, weighs the benefits of keeping them alive. Now I know I'm going to face a lot of adversity for this comment. However, I will show up to a televised debate. And debate anyone who wants to debate preserving the lives of pedophiles. So please understand that I do not see pedophiles as humans. No one should.
I find it cruel and unusual punishment that criminals are forced to be housed with these sub humans. Its wrong to put even a murderer with a pedophile. I support criminal reform....but pedophiles cannot be reformed. There is no way to reform someone's sexual preference. So that's how I justify it!
2nd is Volunteering with my local Chamber of commerce. I'm a membership ambassador. This is basically my social group. I'm not embarrassed to admit, I dont have many people I'm close to. The chamber has introduced me to some friends who have become , more like family. Since I do have a business in our city. It would be foolish of me, to not volunteer with our local chamber.
My 3rd interest, is anywhere the community can use me. I live in a small coastal town in central California. I finally feel that I've found home in my community. There are so many volunteers in my community. Every weekend, someone has someone going on. Our community is a community of volunteers and activists at heart. Of course you'll always see the same main people, even our Mayor. I love where I live. I'm realizing that life doesnt have to be horrible and miserable. I've slowly learned that in this community. So when I have nothing going on, there will be a beach clean up, a park clean up, planting tree's day, or some community event that is looking for volunteers. Next door and Facebook is great for small communities. Our community is 22,000 small. So everyone knows pretty much everyone. It's very diverse and unique.
So yes, I do have a life. I will rest, once the laws have been changed.
I work full time and volunteer full time. I'm a locksmith. My husband and I run a locksmith shop together. However this year has been harder than most. My husband developed heart issues (side effects of cancer treatment).
Our 22 year old son is returning home with his wife and 1st child, after a 5 year contract in the Marines. He's going to help us remain healthy, and in turn, we'll make sure , he never needs to leave our grandchildren with a babysitter.
Volunteering is my 2nd full time job. It does sometimes drive my husband crazy, that I'm spending hours doing random things for others, and not getting paid for my time. But this is where I thrive. Over time he's learned that it's vital for my healing. He was a volunteer in his youth, so it re sparked something in him as well. He doesnt have the health to volunteer, but being a locksmith gives him the ability to help those of his choice. We have a few elderly community members on fixed incomes. It always makes him good to help them out. When an old person is so happy with him, that's where he thrives. He had an amazing relationship with his grandfather, and lived with him growing up. This definitely is the reason. It breaks his heart how many old people have no one. Some never got married, or had children. When they get old, they dont know who to call on. Their siblings and friends pass on. Family is truly everything. So were both givers at heart. Everyone has their passions. All of my volunteer work has a goal. The goal is to introduce me to others...and have people one day show up for me. Because I'm always showing up for others. That's how it works right? I sure am hoping so.
I have 3 main interests when it comes to volunteering.
First is the RJP. Restorative Justice Partners. I'm a volunteer mediator for juvenile cases. The Monterey county juvenile probation department, passes us cases of first time offenders. My job , is to help them make things right with their victim and community at large. Those who go through our program age going to move forward in their life and do great! The best thing for me about working with the RJP. I get the Marina cases. I make it my personal business to look out for Marina youth. They know that if they can call on me for anything. Many people will criticize me for working with the RJP but then calling for capital punishment of pedophiles. But people should be interested in why. Pedophiles are hiding in every corner of society. There is no cure against sexual preference. Adults who want to have sex with children...shouldn't be awarded human rights. The dangers of keeping this person alive, weighs the benefits of keeping them alive. Now I know I'm going to face a lot of adversity for this comment. However, I will show up to a televised debate. And debate anyone who wants to debate preserving the lives of pedophiles. So please understand that I do not see pedophiles as humans. No one should.
I find it cruel and unusual punishment that criminals are forced to be housed with these sub humans. Its wrong to put even a murderer with a pedophile. I support criminal reform....but pedophiles cannot be reformed. There is no way to reform someone's sexual preference. So that's how I justify it!
2nd is Volunteering with my local Chamber of commerce. I'm a membership ambassador. This is basically my social group. I'm not embarrassed to admit, I dont have many people I'm close to. The chamber has introduced me to some friends who have become , more like family. Since I do have a business in our city. It would be foolish of me, to not volunteer with our local chamber.
My 3rd interest, is anywhere the community can use me. I live in a small coastal town in central California. I finally feel that I've found home in my community. There are so many volunteers in my community. Every weekend, someone has someone going on. Our community is a community of volunteers and activists at heart. Of course you'll always see the same main people, even our Mayor. I love where I live. I'm realizing that life doesnt have to be horrible and miserable. I've slowly learned that in this community. So when I have nothing going on, there will be a beach clean up, a park clean up, planting tree's day, or some community event that is looking for volunteers. Next door and Facebook is great for small communities. Our community is 22,000 small. So everyone knows pretty much everyone. It's very diverse and unique.
So yes, I do have a life. I will rest, once the laws have been changed.
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